Me? It inspired me to write a blog post about how much of this is NOT true for me as a mother of 2 children (one almost 9 years and the other... well you should know already if you're reading this).
1. Sure, I've cried. More so with my first than with the second. And not just because there's more time, either. By this time in Rayne's life, I had shed WAY more tears! I was not enjoying myself...
I will not go as far to say as my children MADE me cry, however. I feel that gives them a responsibility that they should not have. I chose to cry because of whatever particular situation was overwhelming at the moment.
2. ...This is a BIG NOPE! If I want that last piece of pie, then I will have it! At the most, I will express that I want it and maybe give it them if they seem to have a stronger preference for it. This tells them that I am a person, too, and have needs and wants and not everything is just handed to them.
3. I suppose this one is similar to the last. If I'm hurting, then I will not hide it. For the same reason. I am a person, too. Rayne is now aware of the pains of having a baby and she still wants children of her own (please don't ask me why my 9 year old is already talking about having kids... I don't know...).
4. Same thing. Fear is not something that should be hidden or be ashamed of. It just makes the fear grow. Instead, I show that I can face fear and overcome it.
5. Of course, I'm not perfect. And I don't make Rayne believe that I am. And you know what? THAT'S OK! And she will tell you so.
6. Now that's just creepy. Just kidding. Everyone knows sleeping children are adorable. It means they're quiet.
7. And this is a mystery?
8. I think this might be personal preference? Perhaps I'm too logical to be in agreement on this one. I focus more on why the tears are there, address them, then assess feelings later. Really, it only "breaks my heart" when there's physical pain. I can't stand seeing those I love hurt. It turns my stomach. This will probably change in the future.
9. NOPE! I fully believe that if you do not put yourself first and take care of your own needs, then you can't be expected to take care of someone else. There's a reason airplane protocol says you should put your own mask on before helping others. I've contemplated this fact for years.
10. After Rayne, I was perfectly happy not having any more children, but then I met an amazing man who also happens to be an amazing father. So now, I have another one. The decision and experience of having children is completely based on your surroundings and support. So sure, I'll do it again.
